A lot of peace is found in the space if we can see that it really SHOULD have happened...because it DID happen.So many of us get stuck in that space of "it wasn't supposed to happen", "I shouldn't have done that" or "it shouldn't have gone down that way."
We SHOULD have done that....because we DID do that.
It was SUPPOSED to happen...because it happened.
Are you following?
To suggest otherwise, to get hung up on the "n't" part of the equation, is a fruitless endeavor. No relief will ever come of it because it's simply fighting against reality.
So turn the "shouldn't"s into "should have"s, the "wasn't supposed to"s into "did"s, and begin your work from there.